you know what i always thought was kinda neat
when gay couples raise children and you have to pick something other than dad or mom for the kid to call you
because obviously dad and dad or mom and mom is rly confusing for all parties
can i make my future kids call me something really cool and my wife can be “mom”
can i be like megatron
"mommy’s busy go ask megatron"
Anonymous asked: why is "hate breeds more hate" a bad thing to say?
Oh so many reasons.
1) it equates the anger of the oppressed to the hate of their oppressors.
2) it blames oppressed groups for their oppression. Bigotry doesn’t exist because people hate bigots. It exists because oppressed people oppose it. It exists because of bigots and because of privileged folks being complicit or tacitly condoning systems of oppression.
3) it’s fundamentally untrue. Hatred of oppression doesn’t lead to more hatred; it leads to progress.
4) it is used to attack any attempt by oppressed people to obtain liberation. Point out that something or someone is repulsively racist and all of a sudden you’re “breeding more hate”.
It’s a fundamental misrepresentation of reality that blames victims and excuses fucked up behavior.
You know better than to make that claim. Memes like this are misleading and reductionist - Don’t do this.
take two lemons for depression and call me in the morning
got chronic pain? here’s a pint of raspberries!
figs are the new insulin, haven’t you heard?
WARNING SIGN in this image should immediately be “homesteadingsurvival.com”
This isn’t merely misinformation, but an advertisement. This person likely sells books, kits, or other paraphanalia to people like anti-government survivalists— often connected with fear speech over how the government is gonna collapse, take us to FEMA death camps, how we need to learn to survive in a post-apocalyptic world, basically a libertarian/anarchist paradise.
Basically: mostly white people afraid that they need to basically go galt from society due to unknown dangers. Not all homesteaders or people who are survival hobbyists are like this! But these fanatical “replace medications so you don’t have to rely on drugs!” assertions obviously made by NO people who EVER have had to deal with chronic illness, they come from a dangerous school of thought that’s pro-gun, anti-society, often highly racist, and overall just perilous. This Dave Sommers guy might not be an extremist but this certainly is an example of the kind of thing an extremist would want as the water to swim in, a moderate or “harmless” philosophy-affirming graphic.
Never mind that one could not possibly grow all, or even one of these things, based on geographic location or farming techniques. Lemons are often grafted onto other citrus. Figs need special pollination techniques nowadays. Mangos are tropical-only. Cranberries need a bog. I have no idea how to grow an avocado tree that could produce viable fruit. Rasins need safe storage. All of these fruits are also seasonal— you better have learned to can or preserve your fruits.
Apr 20. 77 Notes.
Anonymous asked: And I wasn't saying you're just as bad NOW. I'm saying that if it continues it all can be. Trust me, even though no one has tried to kill me (over sexuality that is) I also have wanted to hate the ignorance of SOME straight people. And thanks to them I refuse to identify my sexuality because I can't even stand the labels anymore. But even though there are individuals in a group that can be horrid it doesn't mean all of them are.
"There’s this thing that none of you seem to know about called metonymy and it’s where you use a whole to stand in for a part. To give you an example, metonymy would be when someone says, “Washington is so corrupt these days,” and you understand that they do not mean that every citizen of Washington, D.C., or even every congressperson in Washington, D.C. is completely morally bankrupt, and that they are actually talking about the idea of Washington, D.C. and the structure that is in place being corrupt. When “America” goes to war, every single American does not simultaneously take up arms. When “the internet” attacks someone, every person with an internet connection does not become a hivemind of anger aimed at an individual.
So when I say, “I hate straight people,” I am saying exactly what I mean. “I hate the system of oppression and homophobia that was set up by and benefits straights.” Metonymy. Boom.
But furthermore, it’s not even that I “hate the oppression” (although I do). I also hate those who are complicit, who benefit from a system that I can’t access, and when I demand entry, deny that they had any part of it or received any benefits, and tell me that I should make it the same way they did - without any help.
I do not care whether you get mad at me for saying that. I could not give a flying shit if that upsets you. I will say what I want to say and you will accept it, because as an ally that is your job.When you decided to call yourself an ally, you didn’t just sign up for the rainbow bracelets and the pretty gay marriage .gifs. You signed up to support the queer community and that means supporting queer people in what they say, feel and believe. Don’t blame me because you didn’t read the fine print.” - queervoicesonstraightvoices
Since you’re not clicking links I will bring them to you.
Also, the thing is? You were raised in a queerphobic society. You have internalized queerphobia to unlearn. We all do. Queer people are more likely to work on unlearning it bc it affects us. You are being queerphobic right now by tone-policing and saying we’re just as bad as our oppressors.
You admit you’ve never experienced actual oppression for being straight yet have the nerve to say one day we’d be even. That heterosexuals will be oppressed for centuries, killed, subjected to cure therapy, mutilated, be denied jobs and housing, etc.
Text-posts here are VENTING. saying “some” lets you off the hook. it doesnt force you to check your privilege.
lesson one, many people will always see your speech as tools. They will see it as about themselves, they will think how they can use your speech, they will be thinking about how they possibly could hurt you with your own speech or render your speech invalid. They aren’t interested in actually hearing your speech or even the most basic fucking facts they don’t understand. They see you speaking as merely a social cue to wait for their turn to talk, not to actually understand or comprehend what you are saying other than for the purposes of picking out reasons why you’re disqualified to have spoken in the first place.
This is how climate change and evolution denialists can step into a room with Bill Nye and not learn a thing.
This is how pro-choice people can hear firsthand about how outlawing abortion will only make inevitable abortions unsafe, about how they aren’t supporting kids in foster care or after birth, and not rethink themselves.
This is how racists can fail to understand white privilege or even basic statistics meanwhile being demonstrated them every time they open their ill-advised mouths.
This is how sexists can claim feminism ought to be ‘over’ when our culture and society still oppresses women in every way possible.
This is how transphobes can think of violence against trans people as a minor deal when their death rate is so horrifyingly high.
They literally aren’t listening. They wait for the conversation to be over so they can then talk about themselves instead. They feel no impact of these realities and so merely wait to try and stop the speaker instead, so they don’t have to listen anymore, to dominate the speaker, to “get” them on something that makes their speech invalid.
So they don’t have to think about it.
Anonymous asked: "kill all cishet men" Does this include disabled men and POC men?
I understand that this is supposed to be some kind of “gotcha” to catch me on what you may believe to be a kind of social justice folly, to stand back smugly and watch me self-destruct on inane technicality.
However, the statement “kill all cishet men” was part of a trans dialogue, came from a trans person, that I merely echoed in support— it is not a literal directive or sentiment to actually want to kill anyone but an expression of trans anger at cisgender, heterosexual men for widely oppressing them.
I know that it is in your advantage to consider it a literal death threat because cisgender, heterosexual men rarely receive death threats as a group and that alarms you— but please consider that casually, trans people receive hate speech and death threats casually nearly every day, from people who actually have societal power to kill them and hardly ever get caught.
additionally, the people who commit the most violence against cisgender, heterosexual men are in fact other cisgender, heterosexual men— disabled men are medically oppressed, as you might be aware, and men of color (POC men? are you aware that POC is an acronym, and “person of color men” is a bit strange?) face the absolute highest rates of gun homicides in the USA— at the hands of other cisgender men, because of the USA’s school-to-prison complex that encourages criminalization of black youth. Gay men of color and gay disabled men face this risk of violence in addition to homophobia.
So I ask you: who set these systems in place? Who benefits from them most? Is it trans people, benefiting from the death of these men? Is it women? Is it women of color? Are non-straight people to blame for homophobia? Are other disabled people reaping reward from the death of their fellows?
I don’t think so. The people who hold societal power and are at the wheel of these systems are yet more cisgender, heterosexual men— white men in positions of power. They are CEOs and politicians, the people with the most privilege, who have the least to prove to get to the very highest peak of our society.
This is the essence of the coded statement “kill all cishet men.” Non-straight people might groan “gross, straight people,” and people of color might groan “stop white people,” but they do not mean to say that straight people are actually nauseating, or that white people should be removed from society. Only that the power structures that empower these people make life obscenely difficult for the rest of humanity, and that because privilege coddles these demographics, they often act in ways that are mindlessly violent, heartless, thoughtless, or annoying. The last time someone cheated you and you snarled, “I’m going to kill them,” I really hope you didn’t actually mean to do it or meant it as an actual death threat!
The fact that you don’t understand any of this, may be because 1) it is not in your interest to admit that you had no place or reason or even cursory awareness to make this comment, because you sought to try and hurt men, not bang your foot and hurt yourself, and 2) you are unaware that you’re trespassing in a dialogue you may not fully understand— you are willing to bypass any and all context and expressions of anger and frustration by suppressed people for the sake of trying to accuse others of being violent or hysterical.
That is pretty repugnant.
Friendly reminder that the Duckbill Platypus is not beaver sized but the tiniest most cutest patootie being in existence
i thought these things were the size of like, large cats or something. ITS FUCKING TINY JESUS
the males have venomous spines on their feet. I wouldn’t want to hold one without knowing it was safe.
I got catcalled while I was walking the other day and I couldn’t think of anything clever to say so I just made the most hideous shrieking noise I possibly could.
I heard the guys in the car go “the fuck?”
bro i love you so much bro you’re so important to me bro. bro i wanna spend my life with you. bro i love ur eyes but not in a gay way bro. bro do you wanna marry me by the ocean and remember that as the most important day of our lives as we grow old together and make each other as happy as possible no homo
There’s this concept in tv shows and such that has popularized the idea that all friends devolve into jealous snarking assholes at the slightest provocation and that friendship conflicts can’t ever revolve around anything else. It’s ridiculous.
One of my net kids was in her class for playwriting. She pitched a story where a group of online friends help one of their friends who has a really shitty home life.
Her class jumped to “Well that’s not a REAL conflict you should make the friends fight. What if one of them isn’t actually who they say they are? What if one of them doesn’t really like her and says something when they think their mic is muted? What if-“
And I’m watching a show that I like but I just watched a similar bullshit concept play out with some characters that are supposedly friends in this show and I just think to myself “Why?” Why is the only ACCEPTABLE version of friendship in most dramas friends hurting one another. It’s literally not a representation of friendship. It’s a representation, often, of abusive, petty people.
And people think that’s how it really is. Like I’ve known people who think that friendships work that way and they don’t believe that good friendships happen.Some of them are people that have become my best friends.
It’s just so super frustrating to me that this is the primary focus of friendships in a lot of stuff IDK